Couples Counselling
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Hertfordshire Wellbeing Centre
Alexander House,
Mindenhall Court
Stevenage Old Town,
My husband and I had lost the ability to communicate without everything turning in to an argument.
Thank you so much Paul for all your help. Your friendly approach and professionalism was second to none.
D & P. R. Royston
We both felt that our marriage was over but didn't want to let all the years we spent together to slip away.
If your relationship is in need of help, call Paul anytime for an informal chat to discuss how his extensive experience  could have a positive impact on your life.
Appointments available:
daytimes, evenings and weekends
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If you would like Paul to call you to discuss his couples counselling, please fill in your details in the form below.
Telephone: 07584 492254
If you don't want your relationship to end, don't thrown in the towel because our couples counselling provides couples with a new way to manage their conflicts in a more positive way.
No matter how bad things seem right now and despite what you may be thinking, if you have the desire and determination to put things right, it is still possible for you to turn your relationship around.
Couples counselling at the Hertfordshire Wellbeing Centre offers a relaxed and friendly environment for you to take a constructive, honest and more objective look without apportioning blame, at how you have arrived at this point in your relationship.
Traditional couples counselling involves getting the couples together and immediately working on the problems they experience.
A New Approach to Couples Counselling
We had been to counselling before  but decided that we would try one more time to save our marriage.
The sessions were so helpful and we thought that the mix of single and joint sessions worked for us.
We were able to highlight the real areas of difference in our relationship and develop ways of individually managing ourselves in a more positive way.
This was the turning point for us...learning to take responsibility for our own thoughts and behaviours.
It did take hard work for both of us but now we are able to talk about problems that arise rather than argue about them.
Paul Allenby - Providing Therapy Since 1997
I have been providing private therapy since 1997 and have gained a wealth of experience in helping couples make positive changes in their relationships.
The combination of counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy and mindfulness approaches can have a positive impact on the problems you experience.
Call me for an Informal Chat
It's hard to get all the information you need from looking at a website. I am very happy to have a chat with you to discuss how my unique style of therapy could be of help to you. Feel free to call me anytime or fill in the form above and I will contact you.
This can create immense difficulties in these early stages because of the couple's general inability to communicate without disagreement and argument.
Our couples counselling takes a different approach.
Paul has immense experience in the field of couples counselling and notices that the majority of couples are simply not prepared for the direct approach.
Paul starts the therapy as a joint introduction session but then proceeds initially with individual sessions.
Without proportioning blame on their partner, Paul helps his clients to focus on themselves and how they contribute to the difficulties within the relationship.
During these sessions you will:
This is a novel approach and provides much weight for successful outcomes.
Be more receptive to the therapeutic process.
Learn how to challenge your thoughts and interpretations.
Learn how to highlight your own inconsistencies.
Establish how you can realistically get your relationship back on track
Learn how to take a step back from conflict.
Recognise your own personal needs.
Develop better communication skills.
This has real benefits because it helps the individuals learn how to take ownership of their thoughts and actions.
These sessions help our couples to understand better how they got to where they are now and how they can develop individual and personal solutions.
Many couples presenting for counselling believe there is no hope but Paul believes there is always hope.
Joint Sessions
Paul provides a dynamic approach to couples counselling where with will, you can change the position you're in and create a new and different approach to the difficulties you experience.
Paul is immensely experienced in couples Counselling and provides therapy that gets his clients to look at themselves rather than blaming the other.
This approach helps the individuals to establish the areas where they can have a positive input in turning things around.
When the joint sessions commence you will both be in a different frame of mind to be more accepting and prepared to find mutually accepting solutions.
During the joint sessions you will learn how to discuss matters by listening to each other and doing so without criticism or contempt as very often is the case.
By doing more of the right things, and doing less of the relationship damaging things, you can make your relationship grow in the direction of greater intimacy, contentment and satisfaction.