At the Hertfordshire Wellbeing Centre, Paul Allenby has helped hundreds of couples make positive changes in their relationships.
Below, are just a few of the very many testimonials we have received from past clients we have helped.
My husband and I had lost the ability to communicate without everything turning in to an argument. We both felt that our marriage was over but didn't want to let all the years we spent together to slip away.
Thank you so much Paul for all your help. Your friendly approach and professionalism was second to none.
D & P. R. Royston
We had been to counselling before but decided that we would try one more time to save our marriage. The sessions were so helpful and we thought that the mix of single and joint sessions worked for us.
We were able to highlight the real areas of difference in our relationship and develop ways of individually managing ourselves in a more positive way.
This was the turning point for us...learning to take responsibility for our own thoughts and behaviours. It did take hard work for both of us but now we are able to talk about problems that arise rather than argue about them.
Paul, I just wanted to say you really are amazing at what you do and you really have helped me immensely Thank you so much. P.K. Watford.
The sessions were well structured and gave us us the tools to listen to each other rather than jumping to conclusions. P & R. T. Stevenage.
There is no doubt that the sessions we had with Paul have saved our marriage. We had lost the ability to communicate without arguing. We enjoyed the homework tasks of learning how to listen to each other and to talk without criticising and being defensive. The effort Paul put in and the effort we put in at home has been well worth it. C & B. W. Stevenage.
Like most couples we simply lost our way as a couple. Paul helped us to work on this and consider our relationship and the potential it has. The workbook Paul gave us was valuable because it gave us something positive to work with rather than just discussing our problems. L & F. S. Hitchin.
We have been married for 16 years and during that time we had developed bad habits of communication. In addition, we stopped being there for each other.
Your friendly approach and humour was just what we needed. Thank you for all your help Paul.
D & H. H. Hertfordshire
During the counselling sessions Paul started by helping us to recognise what he calls the 4 errors of conflict and how we were getting it wrong.
This was a real eye opener because we had spent so much time blaming each other for our problems that we didn't even consider looking inward at ourselves. I certainally learnt alot about myself.
The tasks we were asked to do between sessions worked so well for us because it encouraged us to stop bickering and helped us to learn how to be more considerate and respectful of each others feelings.
Complimentary and Natural Healthcare Council
Hertfordshire Wellbeing Centre
Stevenage Old Town,
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Paul has been providing private relationship counselling sessions since 1997 and has gained a wealth of experience in helping couples make positive changes in their relationships.
Because of this immense experience in couples therapy Paul considers himself to be an expert in this field.
Our Relationship Counselling Sessions
Our relationship counselling provides you with a private window in which you can talk with each other about the situations the difficulties within the relationship without conflict or argument.
Your therapy starts with an initial consultation where we will discuss how you both individually feel in the relationship. With the initial understandings we set about creating the way forward.
We then proceed in to a series of weekly or fortnightly sessions, initially starting with 12 sessions. There may be a mix of couples and individual sessions.
As our relationship counselling sessions are solution focused and goal orientated we do not necessarily dwell on your past experiences. Although past experiences and how you got to where you are as a couple are important to discuss, Paul is more intent in helping you find solutions and effective coping and workable mechanisms for your current problems and difficulties.
Private Relationship Counselling Sessions Available:
The sessions are designed to improve communication and find solutions to the difficulties you are experiencing and not who is to blame for the difficulties. You will both be helped to take an inward look to see how you individually add to the problems in the relationship and recognise ways to make personal changes for the good of the relationship.
Call Paul anytime for an informal chat. He will go through all aspects of how his relationship counselling works and most importantly how it can work for you.
Paul provides expert help for couples to get a more thorough understanding of each other and at the same time taking responsibility for their own actions. Paul has a unique style of therapy because it involves working on the communication within the relationship and in addition developing new ways to re-connect and rebuild the friendship in the relationship.
20 Years Experience Providing Relationship Counselling
Our couples relationship counselling sessions are relaxed and laid back whilst at the same time pro-active and goal setting in their approach. If you both have the will we can succeed.
Appointments available: daytimes, evenings and weekends
During these sessions you will be encouraged to learn more about each other. You will be encouraged to talk with each other and ask questions rather than being critical. You will learn how to become more forward looking rather than looking back.